...but there's a total moron on Facebook who seems to be determined to make me kill him (at the very least), and I judged that venting in a blog post would be better than anything else I had in mind for him, much as I would have enjoyed performing complex oral surgery on him with a rusty chisel and a pair of vise grips.
(UPDATED on 10-12-12; see the end of the article.)
I'll lay out the entire story for you.
A friend of mine posted a meme that said, in part, "I don't laugh often, but when I do it's usually because someone fell." Innocuous, I'll admit, but Total Moron (whose name is scarcely worth mentioning) posted this:
"Especially old women. I don't know why but's it's so funny to watch them go down and if you can hear it crack it just adds to the humor. You just might get a little wee from me."
Personally, I found that in amazingly poor taste, and said so:
"Dude, if that's a joke it's an amazingly poor one."
To which he replied:
"My 77 year old mother often says this. Where has America's sense of humor gone? We're becoming more and more neurotic with each passing year."
Now let me get this straight...when someone writes something tasteless and offensive I'm not supposed to say anything? Who came up with that idiotic rule?
By this time, you might imagine, I was getting a bit testy. My response:
"My mother couldn't laugh at her broken hip; her Alzheimer's prevented her from understanding what was happening to her. She was terrified. Going into surgery she was terrified. Coming out she was terrified. I'm so glad you find this kind of suffering funny. By now you must have noticed that your very existence offends me, and I don't feel that it's fair to (Original Poster) to carry on this type of discussion in his Facebook space. Nor do I wish to continue this conversation with you in any fashion. Why don't you just go and amuse yourself by laughing at some elderly people in extreme pain and terror, since you find it so amusing. But don't go near their loving relatives. Yes, that was a threat."
(I should note that I had deleted everything I wrote between "loving relatives" and "Yes, that was a threat," and there was quite a bit and it was quite insulting and a bit threatening, before I posted that message. I meant to delete the "that was a threat" part as well, but mistakenly left it in. Still, a bunch was deleted that could only have exacerbated matters further.)
As you can see, I was done being polite to Total Moron and simply wanted to cease communication with him. But I was concerned that this whole exchange had occurred on someone else's Facebook post, and wrote a short apology to the original poster, who wrote back and said, basically, "these things happen." OK, I was perfectly willing to drop the whole matter then. I wanted to drop the whole matter then. Nothing would have made me happier than than to let the whole thing slide.
Some people, though, just don't know when to shut up:
"I'm sorry you are offended but since when is being offended a virtue? You know nothing about me other than the post. If you are the type of person that thinks it a virtue to find offense in the comment of a stranger and feel the need to attack them because they aren't like you then I feel sorry for. Your life must be filled with a lot of pain. Lighten up. Stop trying to control others. You have the right to be offended but your attack is just too much. It's your right and it's my right to defend myself from verbal attackes like yours. Learn to either accept the fact that people you find offense might just NOT be as offensive as you first make them out to be."
IS THIS MORON INSANE? It's obvious that he doesn't know me; if he did, he'd realize that he had just made a series of serious errors. Forget knowing me; if he had ever seen me I doubt he would have done it. No one can be that thick.
For my part, I had one more post to post before I was done:
"Which part of "nor do I wish to continue this conversation with you in any fashion" did you fail to comprehend? Let me be clear: I DO NOT WISH TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU, AND I DO NOT WISH YOU TO COMMUNICATE WITH ME."
..and I concluded with yet another apology to the original poster:
"And (Original Poster), please forgive me again for getting back into this in your Facebook space, but this moron simply cannot keep from throwing gasoline on a raging fire and this was where he did it. If you would please warn this imbecile that he is taking his life in his hands. I AM NOT JOKING"
And I wasn't joking. Am not joking. Yes, this Total Moron has pissed me off that much. And I was not joking about the brutal dental work idea...I actually had that fantasy. I am trying not to have it now.
So I put it to you, you people who know me (most of you do) well enough to judge. Am I wrong? Did I overreact? Should I have just laughed this off? How the hell would I do that?
Most of you know, or at least have an idea, of what I went through in the last year or so of my mother's life, what it took out of me, that I have not (possibly will not) recovered. I'm not going go go into all of that now. But how should I have dealt with this? I really want to know.
I have tried long and hard to not be the kind of person that responds to this kind of goading with violence, but just now it's hard, damn hard, not to find this guy, rip his genitals off, stuff his balls in his mouth (I would leave his dick flapping in the breeze against his chin), set him on fire and set him running down the street while I followed closely behind with a cat-o'-nine-tails to keep him moving.
Is that a bit much?
The Blues Viking
The opinions here expressed are mine and if you don’t like them you can get your own damn blog.
UPDATE 10-12-12:
Original Poster has called a truce, and deleted the original thread (and rightly so). But not before Total Moron got in in one last shot, which I won't repeat here as Original Poster has claimed the last word, but by way of information here were OP's main points:
1. I shouldn't have threatened him because he didn't do anything wrong.
2. I shouldn't have been offended by a joke; he didn't do anything wrong.
3. He served in the military defending my rights, and he didn't do anything wrong.
4. I shouldn't have been offended by his comments which were in defense of himself, and he didn't do anything wrong.
He concluded by saying that he was deleting his comments and I should just let it go. All in all, a poorly worded missive that cam only make a bad situation very much worse.
And you know...I am not going to respond. (Well...not much.)
This has gone on long enough. If he wants to believe that I am running scared because of his military service, let him; it don't mean shit to me. And neither does he.
He came remarkably close to reawakening a part of myself that I had long thought buried, and I sure as hell ain't gonna thank him for it. I have laid out the entire discourse here, and you can be the judge.
So this is me, calling a halt before things get truly nasty. I will never reply to, or respond to in any fashion, any further communication from this person, nor will I comment upon it further, and I ask him to do me the courtesy of never attempting to communicate with me again. Not that I think he reads this. Not that I care.
Oh, and about giving Original Poster the last word...along with my deepest apologies, here was his Last Word on the subject:
"I have officially pulled this thread over, and I'm claiming the 'last word' on the subject--let's leave it be and let it go, okay?"
TBV
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